“Calm, discreet and deeply intuitive.”
The Alex Experience · by Alex van River
Private tantric bodywork · LondonSlow. Sensual. Entirely yours.By appointment · A small number of sessions each week
Years in bodywork
Clients worked with
Bodywork influences
Private, personalised bodywork for gay, bi, queer and trans men, with all adults warmly welcome. Your pace. Your preferences. Your time.
Member of APTPink Therapy Advanced AccreditedInsured practitionerClient reflections · shared with permission · anonymised at their request
“Sensual, precise and completely respectful.”
“The privacy and care made me feel safe.”
“Everything felt considered from arrival to aftercare.”
“Calm, discreet and deeply intuitive.”
“Sensual, precise and completely respectful.”
“The privacy and care made me feel safe.”
“Everything felt considered from arrival to aftercare.”
What it feels like
Warm oil. Candlelight. Nowhere to be.
The first long stroke down your back, and your breath finally slows.
Nothing is expected of you — only to feel.
Surprise in sensation. Never surprise in consent. How that works →
Why it feels different
Designed around the person, not a fixed routine.
Private
By appointment, discreet and intentionally low-profile.
Queer-centred
Designed especially with gay, bi and queer men in mind.
Consent-led
Surprise in sensation, never surprise in consent. You can pause, change or stop at any time.
Personalised
Your Comfort Map shapes pressure, pace, focus, boundaries and atmosphere.
What people come here for
Sometimes it's pleasure. Sometimes it's something you've carried for years.
Some people book because they want an unhurried, deeply sensual experience of their own body. Others come because something has gone quiet, tense or painful around sex — and talking about it hasn't been enough. Both are welcome here.
Desire that's gone quiet
Low libido from stress, medication, age, a long relationship — or no obvious reason at all.
Shame around sex or the body
The sense that your body, your desires or your history are something to hide, even from yourself.
Performance and erection anxiety
Pressure that arrives before intimacy does, and gets in the way of feeling anything at all.
Reconnecting after a hard chapter
A breakup, a diagnosis, recovery from chemsex, or years of not being touched with care.
Intimacy and closeness
Wanting touch and connection that isn't rushed, transactional or performed.
Pleasure and curiosity
No problem to solve — simply a slower, deeper, more embodied experience of your own body.
Just here for the experience? Good.
You don't need a reason to book, and you won't be asked for one. A bodywork session is a bodywork session — nobody is going to analyse you. If you'd rather not talk at all, the Comfort Map lets you choose quiet, minimal talking, and that's exactly what you'll get.
Here for something deeper? Also good.
Some of this is worked through hands-on, in Tantra-informed bodywork; some through conversation, in Sexual Wellbeing Coaching — often both. Coaching is a separate door, never a condition. You don't need to know which you want before you get in touch.
How it works
A calmer path from curiosity to session.
01 · Create your Comfort Map
Choose intention, pressure, touch style, focus areas, no-go areas and sensory preferences before the session.
02 · Confirm boundaries together
Your map starts the conversation. Nothing is assumed, and anything can change as you go.
03 · Arrive and experience
The session is shaped around you rather than a fixed routine, with time to arrive, settle, experience and return without being rushed.
The Experience
Designed to be felt,
not simply received.
A private, Tantra-inspired sensual bodywork experience created around touch, presence, breath, energy and embodied awareness.
PrivatePersonalisedMultisensoryConsent-led
Touch can be more than physical.
A journey, not a routine.
It brings together touch, breath, rhythm, warmth, sound, light, stillness and embodied awareness. The session responds to your preferences rather than following a fixed sequence.
Sensuality is treated as awareness of the body — warmth, touch, breath, movement, closeness and sensation — within a professional, respectful setting.
Surprise in sensation.
Never surprise in consent.
Your boundaries are never guessed. You can pause, change direction or stop at any time.
No reason needed. No analysis.
Wanting an unhurried, deeply sensual experience is reason enough. A bodywork session is not a coaching session in disguise — nobody is going to ask about your feelings unless you bring them. Prefer silence? Choose quiet, minimal talking in your Comfort Map.
The journey
01 · Arrive
Settle, review preferences and leave the outside world behind.
02 · Ground
Slow breath, warmth and steady touch begin the transition.
03 · Flow
Rhythm, movement and sensory elements become more immersive.
04 · Awaken
If chosen, the experience can become more sensual and embodied.
05 · Integrate
The pace slows so your body has time to settle.
06 · Return
Space to transition back into your day without being rushed.
Meet Alex
From body.
To mind.
To sexuality.
To self.
For many years, my work and studies have revolved around one central question: how can we feel more at home in our bodies, our sexuality and ourselves?
A background in psychology shapes how I hold space, read consent and support nervous-system safety throughout tantric, sensual bodywork — training that sits alongside, not apart from, the hands-on practice.
Pink Therapy — Advanced Accredited Therapist
Association of Somatic & Integrative Sexologists
Alex van River
Massage Therapy · Tantra-Informed Bodywork · Sexual Wellbeing
Member of APT and BPS · Insured practitioner
Body, mind and experience.
My academic background includes an MSc in Health Psychology and training in Physiotherapy, complemented by long-standing practice in massage and bodywork, mindfulness, breathwork, movement and Tantra-informed practice.
I am also a teacher of massage and bodywork, and currently CEO of a massage school, where I share practical, embodied and consent-aware approaches to touch.
Over more than 25 years, I have explored the body through more than 20 forms of massage, bodywork and somatic practice — from Hawaiian Lomi Lomi, deep-tissue work, relaxing massage, myofascial release, aromatherapy, Swedish massage, Ayurvedic massage, craniosacral approaches and physiotherapy-informed techniques, to Thai Yoga massage, Japanese massage, Zen Shiatsu, reflexology, energy work and sound-based practices.
My wider journey has also been shaped by training and guidance from teachers and practitioners across Thailand, Japan, India, New Zealand and Hawaii, alongside influences from South American shamanic traditions.
My approach has been shaped by years of study in Tantra, personal practice and direct learning, including personal lessons and trainings with Dr Janine Santon, whose work has informed my understanding of the mind-body connection, as well as teachings and inspiration from Barbara Carrellas, Janine at Wilde Ziel in Amsterdam, Sian Johnson, Christopher “Hareesh” Wallis of Tantra Illuminated, and my mentor, Mantak Chia.
Selected education and training
This is a selected overview of trainings, certifications and personal study. It represents only part of a much wider body of professional development.
2027MSc Health Psychology, University of West London · in progress
2027Tantra-informed training with Dr Janine Santon, USA · in progress
2026Introduction to Counselling, City Lit, London
2025Yoga training, Bhakti Yoga Ashram
2019Advanced Deep Tissue Massage training
2019Myofascial Release training, Gateway College
2012Tantra Massage Certification with Dr Janine Santon, USA
From 2011Mantak Chia training and practice, Thailand and London: Chi Gong, Inner Smile and Sexual Healing
2009Sound Massage with Tibetan Singing Bowls, Peter Hess Academy, Poland and Germany
2009ILA products, spa treatments, Ayurveda and Indian massage, Chewton Glen Hotel and Spa
2008Hawaiian massage and Lomi Lomi training in Hawaii with Kahunas, and in Costa Rica
2008Deep Tissue Massage, Walking Backrub, London
2006ITEC Anatomy and Physiology Level 3, Morley College, London
2006Indian Head Massage, Gateway Workshop, London
2006Shiatsu Massage Diploma, Zen School of Shiatsu, London
2006Traditional Thai Massage, Old Medicine Hospital and Wat Po Thai Medical School, Thailand
2005Massage and Physiotherapy training, Medical Training College, Poland
2004Reflexology and Meridian Therapy, International School of Reflexology and Meridian Therapy
2002-2006Reiki Level 1, Level 2 and Master training, Poland
SelectedTantra Massage training with Sian Johnson and wider Tantra-informed study and practice
Academic affiliation
Rasayana Tantra Academy
The Love Academy
European Institute for Higher Education in Integral, Somatic & Transpersonal Sexology
Tantric Science and Advanced Erotology
The Institute works from a simple premise: full, embodied sexuality and genuine pleasure belong to everyone, not just the fortunate few. Its work runs along three lines — helping people grow into their fullest sexual embodiment, raising the profile of somatic sexology as a serious field of practice, and setting the professional standards that practitioners in the field are trained and measured against.
Rasayana Tantra Academy
The Love Academy
This has given me a way of working that is not based on one technique or one philosophy. I am interested in the person as a whole — the body, nervous system, emotions, sexuality, identity, relationships and the way we experience ourselves through touch and connection.
Sexual wellbeing coaching
Today, my work has evolved beyond massage alone. Alongside The Alex Experience, I offer Sexual Wellbeing Coaching for men, with a particular focus on gay, bisexual and queer men who want to feel more confident, connected and at ease in their sexuality.
I work with themes such as sexual confidence, erection confidence, performance anxiety, changes in desire or libido, pornography habits, body image, shame, intimacy, communication, pleasure, relationships and self-exploration.
For some men, the goal is to feel more relaxed and confident around sex. For others, it may involve reconnecting with desire, understanding arousal, reducing pressure around erections, developing healthier sexual habits, improving communication with a partner, rebuilding confidence after difficult experiences, or creating a more authentic relationship with their own sexuality.
Confidential, affirming and consent-led.
My approach is confidential, non-judgemental, LGBTQ+ affirming and consent-led. I bring together psychology-informed coaching, embodied awareness, mindfulness, breathwork, somatic practice and Tantra-inspired approaches.
Rather than telling someone what their sexuality should look like, I create a space in which they can explore it with greater awareness, confidence and choice. There is no expectation to perform, prove anything or fit into a particular identity.
Nothing needs to be forced. Nothing needs to be performed.
My work is designed to feel personal, discreet and deeply individual. Whether we are working through conversation, coaching, embodied awareness or bodywork, the focus is always on helping you feel more connected to yourself.
The Alex Experience
Where appropriate, coaching can sit alongside The Alex Experience, my private, consent-led, multisensory bodywork practice. Coaching and bodywork remain clearly defined services, with boundaries and expectations agreed in advance.
At the heart of everything I do is a simple idea: the body is not something to overcome — it is something to come home to.
My aim is to help men feel more at home in their bodies, more confident in their sexuality, more connected to their pleasure, and more able to create the intimate life they genuinely want.
Alex van River · Men’s Sexuality, Intimacy & Embodiment Coach · Tantra-Informed Practitioner
Experience built over years.
25+ years
Hands-on massage and bodywork experience.
Chewton Glen
Earlier professional experience in luxury hospitality in Britain.
BBC radio
Appeared as a guest on BBC radio.
Selected recognition
Relais & Chateaux Certificate for Excellent Service
Awarded in relation to earlier therapy, spa and luxury hospitality work. This recognition is separate from and does not refer to tantra-informed services.
These earlier professional experiences are separate from the tantric services offered today and are not presented as endorsements.
Five-star quality of service
Private, attentive and discreet care from first contact to aftercare.
Client reflections
In their own words — names withheld at their request.
Genuine feedback from clients, shared with their permission. Identifying details are left out because discretion is part of the work — each is described only by what they do.
“Alex is more than a therapist; the whole session felt like a deeply held experience.”
“His presence is calm, discreet and deeply intuitive; it felt like my body could finally exhale.”
“The touch was sensual, precise and respectful, with a level of professionalism I rarely experience.”
“I have visited many spas, but this felt more personal, intuitive and genuinely premium.”
“The discretion, calm and attention to detail made me feel completely safe from the first moment.”
“His touch has a rare quality: sensual, respectful and emotionally grounding at the same time.”
“It was not just massage; it helped me come back to myself and reconnect with my body.”
“The experience felt beautiful, private and carefully designed around my boundaries.”
“After the session I felt lighter, more confident and more present in my own sexuality.”
“There is a refined, almost cinematic quality to the way Alex holds space and works with touch.”
“Everything felt considered: the pace, the privacy, the atmosphere and the aftercare.”
“This is the kind of bodywork I would recommend to people who value excellence and discretion.”
“This is five-star quality care: attentive, refined and far beyond a standard treatment.”
“A discreet, sensual and deeply reassuring experience that stayed with me long after the session.”
“Alex is more than a therapist; the whole session felt like a deeply held experience.”
“His presence is calm, discreet and deeply intuitive; it felt like my body could finally exhale.”
“The touch was sensual, precise and respectful, with a level of professionalism I rarely experience.”
“I have visited many spas, but this felt more personal, intuitive and genuinely premium.”
“The discretion, calm and attention to detail made me feel completely safe from the first moment.”
“His touch has a rare quality: sensual, respectful and emotionally grounding at the same time.”
“It was not just massage; it helped me come back to myself and reconnect with my body.”
“The experience felt beautiful, private and carefully designed around my boundaries.”
“After the session I felt lighter, more confident and more present in my own sexuality.”
“There is a refined, almost cinematic quality to the way Alex holds space and works with touch.”
“Everything felt considered: the pace, the privacy, the atmosphere and the aftercare.”
“This is the kind of bodywork I would recommend to people who value excellence and discretion.”
“This is five-star quality care: attentive, refined and far beyond a standard treatment.”
“A discreet, sensual and deeply reassuring experience that stayed with me long after the session.”
Client reflections
Trusted for calm, discreet and deeply attentive work.
Clients often describe the work as grounding, respectful and carefully held.
Many appreciate the clear boundaries, privacy and sense of emotional safety before, during and after the session.
The experience is designed for people who value quality, discretion and a practitioner who listens closely to the body.
Alex Van River is a professional name created to protect the privacy and anonymity of clients. The project is led by Ralph Bulawicki, Margaret Woyno and Sylvi Ostrozanska.
Alex is a member of the Association for Psychological Therapies (APT) and the British Psychological Society (BPS), and works as an insured practitioner in massage, bodywork and complementary therapy. Certificates, diplomas, insurance details and relevant training records are available on request as part of a transparent, trust-based client relationship.
Sessions
Choose your level of immersion.
Clear starting prices for each session length. Longer or more personalised journeys are quoted directly, up to £350.
60 minutes
The Awakening
£150
A focused introduction to the approach — slow, grounding bodywork centred on presence, breath and deep relaxation.
90 minutes · Signature
The Alex Experience
£200
The signature journey: unhurried, flowing and shaped around your Comfort Map, with time for gradual pacing and personalisation.
120 minutes
The Deep Surrender
£250
A slower, more spacious experience with time for grounding, full-body flow, optional extras and a gentle close.
90 minutes · VIP · The Signature Escape
Lomi Lomi Nui × VR immersion × your preference
A private VR opening, flowing Hawaiian Lomi Lomi Nui bodywork, and one element chosen by you. The most immersive session offered.
£300
60 minutes · In person or online
Sexual Wellbeing Coaching
Conversation-led work on desire, confidence, shame, anxiety and intimacy — on its own, or alongside bodywork.
From £100
All prices are confirmed with you directly before anything is paid. Extended private-client journeys and home visits are quoted individually, up to £350. Questions first? Book a free 15-minute intro call.
Packages & couples
Return, and go deeper.
Many people find the body opens more with each session. Packages keep your price per session the same and add something extra along the way.
3 × The Alex Experience · 90 min
The Journey
£600
Three signature sessions. Your third session is extended to 120 minutes at no extra cost.
Use within 3 months
5 × The Alex Experience · 90 min
The Devotion
£1,000
Five signature sessions, one of them with a VIP element included — the VR opening or an extra of your choice — plus priority on available dates.
Use within 5 months
For two · 90 min
Couples session
£280
A guided session for partners exploring touch, presence and consent together, shaped around both of your Comfort Maps.
One session, two people
Packages are paid in advance by bank transfer when your first session is booked. Every session is also available as a gift voucher →
Sexual Wellbeing Coaching
When the body and the story
need to be worked with together.
Confidential, psychology-informed coaching for men who want to feel more confident, connected and at ease in their sexuality — on its own, or alongside Tantra-informed bodywork.
Who it's for
The things people rarely say out loud.
Desire and libido
Wanting sex less than you used to — or less than you think you should — and not knowing why.
Erection and performance pressure
Anxiety that arrives before intimacy and makes it hard to stay present, especially with someone new.
Shame and body image
Old messages about your body, your desires or being gay, bi or queer that still shape how you feel during sex.
Porn, habits and numbness
Patterns that have crowded out real-life pleasure, and a wish to feel more again.
Intimacy and communication
Finding it hard to ask for what you want, set limits, or let closeness in — with partners or dates.
After a difficult chapter
Rebuilding confidence after a breakup, a diagnosis, chemsex, or experiences that left touch feeling unsafe.
Your body does not need to be fixed.
How it works
Conversation first. The body when it helps.
Coaching sessions are 60 minutes, in person in London or online. The first session is an unhurried conversation: what's going on, what you'd like to be different, and what has and hasn't helped before. There's nothing to prepare and nothing to perform.
From there we work with a mix of psychology-informed coaching, embodied awareness, breath and simple practices to take home — trauma-informed and always at your pace. Some people come for two or three sessions around one specific thing; others work over a longer arc. We agree that together, and review it as we go.
Where bodywork would genuinely help — for example, learning to stay present in the body rather than in your head — a Tantra-informed session can sit alongside coaching. That is always a separate, explicit choice, never an assumption.
Coaching or bodywork?
Coaching — conversation-led. Best when the block is in the story: anxiety, shame, habits, communication.
Bodywork — hands-on. Best when the block is in the body: tension, numbness, not being able to relax into touch.
Both — the most common path for desire and confidence work, because the two feed each other.
Not sure? Start with a conversation — it's the easiest place to begin, and nothing is decided in advance.
What coaching is not
Coaching is not psychotherapy, medical treatment or a substitute for either. If something you bring would be better served by your GP, a sexual health clinic or a therapist, I'll say so plainly and help you find the right door. Nothing intimate is ever part of a coaching session.
Practical details
60-minute sessions · in person (London) or online
From £100 per session · confirmed before anything is paid
Confidential, LGBTQ+ affirming and consent-led
Member of APT and BPS · Pink Therapy Advanced Accredited
The Comfort Map
Your body.
Your boundaries.
Your experience.
A calm pre-session guide to intention, pressure, touch style, focus areas, no-go areas, sensory preferences and conversation.
The Comfort Map is a simple way to tell me what feels good, what does not feel right and what helps you relax before we meet. If you do not know what to choose, do not worry — we can talk through it together during the session. What matters most is that you feel safe with me.
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Intention
What would you like most from this session?
Tap a part of the wheel, choose what feels right, and change it any time.
Eight dimensions
Intention
Pressure
Touch style
Areas of focus
Areas to avoid
Optional extras
Conversation
Overall style
Consent is dynamic.
Informed by the Wheel of Consent and a trauma-informed approach: your selections guide the session, but never lock you in. You can change your mind, pause or stop at any time.
VIP Experience
For people who value privacy,
time and detail.
A higher-touch version of The Alex Experience with a slower arrival, greater personalisation and a more spacious private journey.
Designed for discerning private clients, including people from business, fashion and public life, as well as anyone who values the highest level of quality, discretion and personal care.
The Signature Escape · VIP · 90 minutes · £300
Lomi Lomi Nui, a private VR immersion, and your preference.
Three elements, one unhurried journey. The only session where the room itself changes around you.
01 · Immersion
Private VR opening
A short guided immersion in a VR headset — ocean, breath and sound — to leave the day behind before the first touch. Used while you're resting on your back; removed before the bodywork deepens. Fresh, sealed face covers every time.
02 · Bodywork
Hawaiian Lomi Lomi Nui, Tantra-informed
Long, flowing, wave-like strokes using forearms and hands, rhythmic and continuous, so the body stops tracking where one movement ends and the next begins. Grounding, sensual, deeply releasing — shaped by your Comfort Map throughout.
03 · Your preference
One element chosen by you
Warm stones, sound bowl, breath guidance, aromatherapy, a longer integration, or something discussed in advance — one addition, agreed before we begin, so the session ends exactly the way you want it to.
Every element is optional — the VR immersion can be shortened or skipped entirely if you'd rather stay fully in the room. Consent remains specific, reversible and ongoing, exactly as in every other session. £300, confirmed with you directly before anything is paid.
Unhurried arrival
Extra orientation time before bodywork begins.
Adaptive atmosphere
Sound, warmth, light and pacing adjusted around your preferences.
Discreet continuity
Repeat clients can opt into preference memory.
Private Client
Continuity.
Priority.
Discretion.
For repeat clients who value a consistent, highly personalised experience and quieter access to future sessions.
Priority booking
Earlier access to selected appointment windows where available.
Preference memory
With explicit consent, key non-sensitive preferences can be remembered.
Extended access
First invitation to longer journeys and limited private-client sessions.
Professional Background
Built over years,
not invented overnight.
More than two decades of hands-on bodywork, international training and later academic study in psychology and health psychology.
25+ years
Massage and bodywork experience across private practice, care and hospitality.
20+ approaches
Massage, movement, breath and contemplative traditions.
International influences
Thailand, Zen, Tao and Tantra.
Questions
Clear before you arrive.
Who is it for?
Designed especially with gay, bi and queer men in mind, while welcoming adults who connect with the approach.
Do I need Tantra experience?
No. First-time clients can choose a slower orientation.
Is intimate touch automatic?
No. Nothing intimate is assumed or required. Where touch to intimate areas is part of a session, it only ever happens with your explicit, ongoing consent, as part of specific Tantra massage techniques — it is never provided to induce arousal. Arousal can occur as a natural side effect of the practice, but it is not the purpose of the session. Scope is discussed explicitly throughout.
Can I change my mind?
Yes. Preferences and consent can change at any point.
Where do sessions take place?
In top private studios across London, or at your home on request. The exact address is shared privately once your booking is confirmed.
What do I wear, and how much do I undress?
Come in whatever is comfortable. You undress only as far as you choose, and you are covered with towels or a sarong throughout. Your Comfort Map records what feels right for you.
Should I shower beforehand?
Please arrive freshly showered. If you are coming straight from work or the gym, just mention it and we will make time for you to freshen up.
What if emotions come up?
That is common and welcome. We can slow down, pause or simply be quiet together. Nothing needs to be explained or fixed.
What happens after the session?
There is time to rest, rehydrate and return to your day slowly. You are welcome to talk about how it felt, or to leave in silence.
How do I pay?
By bank transfer or in cash on the day. A small deposit by bank transfer may be requested to hold your date. Card details are never entered on this website.
What if I need to cancel?
Please give at least 24 hours' notice to cancel or reschedule. Late cancellations or missed sessions may be charged in full.
Can we talk before I book?
Yes. A free 15-minute phone or video call is the easiest way to ask questions and see if this is right for you. Request one from the Contact page.
Can I come with my partner?
Yes. A 90-minute couples session is £280, shaped around both of your Comfort Maps.
What does "consent-led" mean here?
The work is trauma-informed and draws on the Wheel of Consent: clarity about who each touch is for, choices checked throughout, and a no that is always respected without explanation.
Is this a sexual service?
No. This is professional, consent-led bodywork. It is not an escort service, and no sexual services are provided or exchanged.
Privacy & Consent
Discretion is part of the experience.
Privacy, boundaries and payment security are part of the client journey from first contact to aftercare.
Consent changes the experience.
New client screening
Every enquiry is reviewed personally — a short private conversation, age verification and a fit check — before any session is confirmed. By appointment only.
Ongoing consent
Specific, reversible and checked throughout. Nothing intimate is assumed.
Minimal data
I only ask for what's needed to book and shape your session — nothing more, and nothing kept longer than it needs to be.
Secure payments
Card details are never entered on this website. Payment is by bank transfer or in cash on the day, once your session is confirmed.
How consent works here
Trauma-informed, and guided by the Wheel of Consent.
Sessions draw on Betty Martin's Wheel of Consent: we are clear about who each touch is for, whether you are receiving or directing it, and that every yes can become a no at any moment.
The work is also trauma-informed. Pace, choice and your sense of safety come first, nothing is pushed through, and you never need to explain why something doesn't feel right.
The Alex Experience App
Carry the experience
with you.
The Comfort Map is a simple companion to the experience. Open it in your browser, or add it to your phone or computer for quick access before your session.
Comfort Map on your device
Open it now. Install it only if you want to keep it close.
iPhone / iPad
Install The Alex Experience on your iPhone
On iPhone, the app is added from Safari to your Home Screen — no ZIP file is needed.
1 · Open this page in Safari.
2 · Tap Share.
3 · Tap “Add to Home Screen”.
4 · Tap “Add”. The Alex Experience will appear as an app icon.
Android
Install on Android
Chrome can install the web app directly when supported.
1 · Open this page in Chrome.
2 · Tap “Install App” below.
3 · Confirm the install prompt.
4 · Open it from your Home Screen.
Desktop · Mac / Windows
Use The Alex Experience on your computer
The same app automatically expands into the desktop layout on a larger screen.
1 · Open the Comfort Map.
2 · Use it full-screen in your browser.
3 · If your browser offers Install, you can add it as a desktop app.
Scan to install
Open on your phone
Open on your phone
Point your phone camera at the QR code, open the link, then follow the iPhone or Android steps.
Your device is detected automatically. The app adapts to iPhone, Android and desktop screen sizes. This is an installable web app, not an App Store or Google Play listing.
Gift vouchers
Give the experience.
A discreet gift for a partner, a friend — or yourself. Vouchers are sent by email and can be used for any session.
90 minutes · Signature
The Alex Experience
£200
The signature session, shaped around their Comfort Map.
120 minutes
The Deep Surrender
£250
A slower, more spacious session with time for every stage.
90 minutes · VIP
The Signature Escape
£300
Private VR opening, Lomi Lomi Nui and one element of their choice.
3 × 90 minutes
The Journey
£600
Three signature sessions, the third extended to 120 minutes.
Any amount
Open voucher
From £100
A set amount they can put towards any session or package.
How it works
Simple to give. Private to use.
1 · Choose a voucher and send a request
2 · Pay by bank transfer
3 · Receive a personalised digital voucher by email
4 · They book privately, whenever suits them
Discreet by design
The voucher simply reads The Alex Experience — a gift of time and care. Nothing explicit, so it can be given openly or opened anywhere.
Valid for 12 months. The recipient must be 18 or over, and goes through the same private screening and Comfort Map as every new client before booking.
Private Booking
Request your session.
Send a private request below. Nothing is confirmed automatically — every new enquiry is reviewed personally and you'll hear back directly, usually within 24 hours.
Not sure yet? Start with a free 15-minute intro call →
Availability
By appointment only — a small number of sessions each week.
Sessions are held mainly in the evenings and at weekends, with some daytime availability on request. Tell me your preferred days or dates in the form and I'll confirm what's open. New clients are screened before any session is confirmed.
Need something sooner? Send a quick enquiry →
Pricing typically ranges from £100 to £350, depending on session length and your needs, and is confirmed with you directly before any payment. By sending a request you confirm you are 18 or over and have read the Terms & Conditions.
How booking works
1 · Send a private request
2 · A short conversation to confirm fit and availability
3 · Your date is held, with a deposit by bank transfer if requested
4 · Complete your Comfort Map before we meet
No card details are ever entered on this website. Payment is by bank transfer or in cash on the day.
Private Enquiries
Start quietly.
You do not need to explain everything in your first message. A name, email and question are enough.
Free 15-minute intro call
A short phone or video call before you book anything — to ask questions, hear how sessions and coaching work, and see if it feels right. No payment, no obligation, nothing to prepare.
A simple first contact.
1 · Your enquiry is reviewed privately.
2 · You receive a reply about suitability and availability.
3 · If appropriate, continue to Comfort Map and booking.
Reach me directly
Email · alex@alexvanriver.co.uk
Instagram · @alexvanriver
Phone · 07438 748634
Location · Top private studios across London, plus home visits on request
Legal
Privacy Policy.
How your information is collected, used and protected — including the sensitive preferences you may share through the Comfort Map.
Last updated: [date this policy goes live]
Who this policy covers
This policy explains how The Alex Experience ("we", "us", "the practice") collects, uses and protects your personal data when you visit this website, use the Comfort Map app, or contact us to enquire about or book a session. Alex van River is a professional name; the practice is operated by [legal/trading name and, if applicable, company number]. For any privacy question, contact alex@alexvanriver.co.uk.
What we collect
Depending on how you use the site, we may collect:
Contact details — your chosen name, email address and phone number, if you provide one.
Enquiry and booking content — whatever you write in the Contact or Booking forms, including your preferred session type and date.
Comfort Map preferences — intention, pressure, touch style, focus areas, areas to avoid, optional extras, conversation style and overall preferences. Some of these answers may reveal information about your sex life or sexual orientation, which UK GDPR treats as special category data. We only collect this with your explicit, informed consent, and only to shape your session.
Technical data — standard hosting/browser information (such as device type and general location inferred from IP address) collected automatically by our hosting provider to keep the site running securely.
We do not currently use analytics or advertising cookies on this site. If that changes, this policy and a cookie notice will be updated first.
Why we use it, and our legal basis
To respond to enquiries and arrange sessions — performance of a contract / steps you ask us to take before one.
To personalise a session around your Comfort Map answers — your explicit consent, which you can withdraw at any time.
To keep the practice safe, insured and compliant with our professional obligations — legitimate interests.
Who we share it with
We do not sell your data or use it for third-party advertising. Limited, necessary sharing includes:
Your bank and ours, when you pay by bank transfer — we only see the payment reference and amount.
An email delivery service (EmailJS, or the provider we use at the time) to send you booking and enquiry confirmations.
Our website hosting provider, to keep this site online.
How long we keep it
We keep booking and Comfort Map data for as long as needed to provide the service and for [retention period, e.g. 24 months after your last session] afterwards, to meet insurance, tax and professional record-keeping obligations. You can ask us to delete your data sooner — see your rights below.
Your rights
Under UK GDPR, you can ask us to:
Give you a copy of the data we hold about you.
Correct anything that is inaccurate.
Delete your data, or restrict how we use it.
Move your data to another provider.
Withdraw consent for Comfort Map or marketing data at any time — this will not affect a session already agreed.
To exercise any of these, email alex@alexvanriver.co.uk. If you are unhappy with our response, you can complain to the UK Information Commissioner's Office (ICO) at ico.org.uk. [Add our ICO registration number here once registered]
Security
We take reasonable technical and organisational steps to protect your data, including not storing payment card details on our own systems and limiting who can see Comfort Map answers to what is needed to prepare your session.
Children
This service is for adults aged 18 and over only. We do not knowingly collect data from anyone under 18.
Changes to this policy
We may update this policy from time to time. The version published here is always the current one.
Legal
Terms & Conditions.
The practical terms behind every session — eligibility, pricing, cancellations and consent.
Last updated: [date these terms go live]
About these terms
These terms apply whenever you enquire about, book or attend a session with The Alex Experience, operated by Alex van River ([legal/trading name and, if applicable, company number]). By booking a session, you agree to them.
Who this service is for
Sessions are for adults aged 18 and over only. We may ask for age confirmation before a session is confirmed.
The service
The Alex Experience offers private, consent-led, Tantra-informed sensual bodywork, alongside separate Sexual Wellbeing Coaching. It is not an escort service. Nothing intimate is assumed or automatic — the scope of each session is discussed and agreed with you in advance, and can change at any point during the session itself.
Where touch to intimate areas forms part of a session, it takes place only with your explicit, ongoing consent and as part of specific Tantra massage techniques. This touch is not intended or provided to induce arousal; arousal, where it occurs, is a natural physiological response and a possible side effect of the practice, not its purpose. The Alex Experience does not provide, arrange or facilitate sexual services of any kind, and no session is exchanged for sexual acts.
Booking and the Comfort Map
A booking request through this site is a request only — nothing is confirmed until you receive a reply about suitability and availability. Before your session, you'll be asked to complete the Comfort Map, a short guide to your preferences. It shapes the session but is never binding — you can change any answer, including in person, at any time.
Pricing and payment
Pricing is personalised and typically ranges from £100 to £350, depending on session length and your needs, and is confirmed with you directly before payment. Payment is arranged privately once your session is confirmed, by bank transfer or in cash on the day. A deposit by bank transfer may be requested to hold your date, and is deducted from the session price. We never collect or store card details.
Cancellations and rescheduling
We ask for at least [24 hours' notice — confirm the exact policy you want] to cancel or reschedule a session. Late cancellations or missed sessions may be charged in full, at our discretion, to respect the time held for you.
Consent and conduct
Consent is specific, informed, reversible and checked throughout every session. You can pause, change direction or stop at any time, for any reason, without needing to explain yourself. Any disrespect of these boundaries, by either party, ends the session immediately.
Health and safety
Please tell us about any health conditions, allergies, injuries or medication that could affect your session before it begins. We reserve the right to decline or adapt a session where there is a genuine health or safety concern.
Confidentiality
What you share with us — in conversation, in the Comfort Map or during a session — is kept private and confidential, in line with our Privacy Policy.
Liability
We provide this service with reasonable skill and care. To the extent permitted by law, we are not liable for indirect or consequential loss, and nothing in these terms limits liability that cannot lawfully be limited (such as for death or personal injury caused by negligence).
Intellectual property
The content, design and branding of this site belong to The Alex Experience and may not be copied or reused without permission.
Governing law
These terms are governed by the laws of England and Wales.
Changes to these terms
We may update these terms from time to time. The version published here is always the current one. Continuing to use this service after a change means you accept the updated terms.
Contact
Questions about these terms? Email alex@alexvanriver.co.uk.